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Live Your 2nd Life After The Kids Are Gone

When you're in the midst of dirty diapers and spilled milk, playdates and sleepovers, homework help and dance lessons, you almost think it will be this way forever. Yet the day they grow up is inevitable, and one day your kids will pack up and leave for college or a home of their own as they begin a new, exciting journey in life. Many parents find this an emotionally challenging experience. You are certainly not alone in feeling lost and aimless. Don't worry. You can get through this difficult time.

While this transition may be tough on you as a parent, the knowledge that the physical distance between you will not lessen the strength and value of your relationship will help many a parent accept this change. Your relationship is merely transitioning to the next level. No longer will it be one where the parent is in control of the child. Rather, the parent and child will be on the same level. Your children will still need your advice no matter how old they are. Even more, you can start to take advice from your children as well. The key is for both parties to be open and for no one to dominate the new relationship. You will soon find the joy in this new relationship with your child. You will also feel secure in the knowledge that your child still values your opinion on things.

Your child moving out of the house can present you with a new opportunity to get reacquainted with your spouse. You don't get much uninterrupted together time when there are children in the house all the time. You'll have more time now to focus on each other and to get reacquainted. It's the perfect opportunity to enjoy activities you have always wanted to try, but were never able to do when you had children around. It's a wonderful time to get out there and have some fun with your spouse. You can get spontaneously romantic whenever you wish. You may just find that your child leaving the home helps to bring the spontaneity and romance back into your relationship. If you are a single parent, you can enjoy the same benefits. With all your free time, you can meet new people and make new friends. They could take you on new adventures you never would have considered with your little ones in tow. In the process you could find yourself falling in love and starting a whole new life.

Now is the time to begin pursuing that hobby you have always wanted to try. Become a member of a sports team to get a bit of exercise. Try that marathon you've always talked about. You can finish up that masters degree that you always wanted to get. Nothing is out of reach for you anymore.

Do not be overly anxious for your children. Recognize that you raised them well. You have taught them right and equipped your kids with everything that they need to be successful in life.

Now it?s time to focus on you. Do not make any rash decisions, however. You want to give yourself time to adjust to the new empty nest first. Add more activities as you become more at ease with your situation. Though your kids are grown up and away, it is okay to call them up once in a while to fill each other in. Talking on the phone once in awhile will ease everyone's anxiety. It will also help you realize that an empty nest is not an ending, but a new beginning.