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Adapting To A Home Without Kids
The concept of time is very strange sometimes. When you're mired in the duties and blessings your children provide you when they are young, you never think that in what seems like the blink of an eye you will be packing their things away as they head off to college or to homes of their own. Despite your best wishes, your children eventually grow into adults and leave to start their own lives. This is a pretty scary moment in your life as well, as you ponder the days of loneliness ahead. Know that with the right approach, this big life change can be navigated successfully.
Your success at this new transition in life all depends on how you look at things. As long as you are willing to concede that out of sight is not out of mind, you will be able to cope with this major change. Despite the fact that your kids are no longer with you, your duties as a parent will never be deemed finished. No matter how old they get or how far away they move, you are still their mom or dad. Basically, the major variance in this stage of your life is that your kids are not as reliant on you as they were when they were little. As your kids grow older, it is only right that their autonomy and individual personalities grows as well. As long as you are willing to offer guidance and emotional support to your kids, remembering that they are no longer kids, you can continue your relationship on a new footing as friends.
You and your spouse were once an entity that existed without children. While initially spouses had priority, the arrival of kids changed all that. Now that the children have gone off to begin their adult lives, you can take the time to bring back the magic in your marriage. It is time once again for you to be a twosome, planning vacations, outings, and activities for just the two of you. For instance, you can both go on a road trip or spend longer hours in bed in the morning without worrying about getting breakfast ready. Seize this opportunity to re-establish the relationship you once cherished above all else. For single parents, this is the perfect opportunity to go out and meet new people.
As a parent of minors, you have to put your child ahead of your own needs and desires. Now you can serve yourself first, take care of your own needs, and cut nobody's meat but your own. You don't have to procrastinate any longer in focusing on yourself. Finally, you have the chance to do everything you want to do. Maybe you can visit a country you've never been to. If there is a hobby you wanted to try, you'll have the time to give it a whirl. Whatever it is, you can pursue it now.
Don?t spend all of your free time worrying about your kids. Recognize that you raised them well. You have made them capable individuals and instilled in them the right values.
It is now time to turn the attention back to you. Take time and ease into your new activities. You want to give yourself time to adjust to the new empty nest first. When you begin to adapt and feel less at a loss in your empty nest, feel free to step out and decide what you wish to do with your new-found freedom. Though your kids are grown up and away, it is okay to call them up once in a while to fill each other in. This will reassure you and help you move on toward the new and exciting life that is awaiting you.
